On the weekend I finished reading “The Winner’s Bible: Rewire Your Brain for Permanent Change” by Dr Kerry Spackman. It was one of the books I had taken with me on my holiday, and was one of three which remained unopened and unread in the bottom of my suitcase. On Saturday, when I was recovering from another challenge with my breathing, I decided to finally get to my unread “holiday” books.
I have to say that as a whole the book was “yeah so what”. It irritated me more than inspired me (I have this thing about books that tell you of the importance of goals and of having an unshakable belief in yourself and then only give trite answers on how to set goals & develop belief, but that is an aside).
However, there was one passage that really resonated with me. It was the chapter where Kerry was talking about his grandpa, Sir Trevor Henry. Sir Trevor was one of New Zealand’s top judges and was an unerringly good judge of character. When Kerry asked his grandpa how he was able to do this, he answered:
” Everyone you meet has a Big Story. They all have an image they want to project about who they are, what they do and why they are so special. Because this Big Story is important to them they put in a lot of effort and care to polish it to perfection. They make this Big Story interesting so we naturally pay a lot of attention to it. But while they are going about their lives, living and telling their Big Story, they are also leaking out Little Stories. Small subtleties in their behaviour that tell you what they are actually like inside. Of course, we don’t usually notice these Little Stories because they get completely swamped by the Big Story. But if you learn to listen to these Little Stories you’ll be able to see inside people’s souls. And the more you practice this Skill of listening to the Little Stories, the more you’ll see.”
I love this. As I spent a bit of time deeply thinking back over my past year, I realised I had lost sight of the importance of listening to the Little Stories and been seduced by the Big Story on more than on occasion. As my grandma used to say “Unless you watch for straws in the wind, you are likely to be hit by the haystack“.
The other quote from the book that resonated with me was:
“You see, the richest people in the world aren’t those with the most assets, the most fame, the most success or even those who are the most popular. The people who possess the greatest treasure in the world are those who:
- are quality people leading their own authentic lives to the fullest
- are intimately connected with other people of equal quality who deeply care for them.”
This is a brilliant definition of richness and abundance. It is easy to get caught up with the Big Story told by people of zeros on a balance sheet, public fame and apparent worldly success – but the little stories can tell a different tale of richness.
So here’s to a life of authenticity, intimate connection, quality friends and family and of hearing the Little Stories that tell of joy, hope, inspiration, honesty and love!
Ingrid Cliff
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Heart Harmony – Freelance Copywriter
March 13th, 2011 at 4:57 pm
Great tips Ingrid! I especially like your last point, “evolving”.
My business has been operating for nearly 13 years and as the business has evolved, I’ve lost count of the number of elevator speeches I’ve had. Each one seemed perfect at the time, but I constantly tweaked and refined it.
September 21st, 2011 at 2:50 pm
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