A lot of people come to executive coaching because they are feeling stuck.  They find their life routine, dull, boring and with no excitement – they feel totally stuck in a rut, with their wheels spinning.  A car stuck in mud is another way to look at it.  When a car is stuck, revving the motor is not going to help (much like doing the same things in life only harder or faster).  Getting angry or yelling at the car doesn’t help either (much like having people tell you to “snap out of it”). 

The only way to get the car un-bogged is to apply some physical force – push it! This is the same for when people are stuck .  The best way for you to get unstuck is to apply some force or energy.  This doesn’t mean be physically pushed, but be emotionally pushed towards something.  One way to do this is to re-look at the goals in your life, break them down into little tiny baby actions and then get started on them within 24 hours.  Keep repeating these small actions until momentum is reached. 

When you are moving again, you can then work out in what direction you really want to steer your life.  Trying to turn a car that isn’t moving is pretty heavy going, but turning a car in motion is easy.  So what does that mean for you?  Once you have started moving towards some goals, you have the chance to re-look at your life and change your goals if necessary. 

But how do you know what to aim for?  If you let your logical mind run the show, then often you just get more of the same.  Your core purpose and calling is something that needs to be discovered, often through non-linear processes that slide in beneath the radar of logic.  Look for coincidences, books that you just happen to pick up, articles that suddenly say “read me”, journal your thoughts and explore your past.  When you finally have your “aha” moment, when you suddenly know who you are and what you really want in life, then you will re-look at your goals and finally know what you really want to aim for.  

So, if you are feeling stuck – get moving.  Aim for something and then allow yourself to discover your purpose or calling.  Watch and enjoy the magic that happens when you follow your path and allow your dreams to become reality.

Ingrid Cliff is a Brisbane based Business Development and Human Resources Consultant to Small and Medium Businesses with her company Heart Harmony www.heartharmony.com.au.